Finding Healing and Balance: Stress Management for Returning Citizens and Their Families
- koreydhendersonphd
- Jul 21
- 2 min read
Coming home after incarceration is a complicated mix of hope, excitement, and anxiety, not only for the individual returning, but also for their family. This season is filled with change as everyone tries to find their footing in a new reality. For the person returning home, the journey can be overwhelming. There is pressure to rebuild life, search for employment, cope with stigma, and repair relationships. Family members may also struggle with their own anxieties, wondering how things will change and how best to support their loved one while caring for themselves.
The truth is that both sides need to recognize that reintegration is not a one-time event but a process. It takes time to settle into new routines and to discover a sense of normalcy. Both the returning individual and their family members should give themselves and each other grace to adjust. Celebrating small wins together, such as completing a job application or having a peaceful family dinner, can help everyone feel like progress is being made even if the steps seem small at first.
Establishing routines can offer comfort and predictability during a time that often feels uncertain. Whether it is sharing meals, having regular check-ins, or simply spending intentional time together, these daily rituals can help create stability. Self-care is also crucial for everyone involved. This may include reaching out for counseling or support groups, spending time outdoors, exercising, or setting aside moments to pursue hobbies and interests. When each person is mindful of their well-being, it becomes much easier to support one another.
No one should feel they have to face the challenges of reentry alone. There are numerous organizations, community groups, and faith-based programs dedicated to assisting both formerly incarcerated individuals and their families. Seeking support, whether through counseling, mentorship, or a trusted group, can provide the much-needed guidance and encouragement during this transitional period.
Perhaps the most essential ingredient in a healthy reentry is open and honest communication about expectations. Misunderstandings can easily arise if people make assumptions or avoid difficult conversations. Both the returning person and family members should feel free to share their fears, hopes, and needs. Creating a safe space where everyone listens without judgment builds trust and keeps the lines of communication open. It is also important to clarify roles and responsibilities. Discussing topics such as household contributions, curfews, or personal boundaries can help prevent confusion and frustration. These expectations may need to be revisited and adjusted over time.
While the past can never be erased, it does not have to dominate every interaction. Focusing on the present moment and approaching each day as a fresh start creates an environment that fosters healing and growth. Recognizing and celebrating even small steps forward, such as learning a new skill or resolving a disagreement peacefully, gives everyone hope for the future.
Ultimately, the journey of reentry is best navigated together with patience, compassion, and a willingness to grow as a family. Stress is real, but with practical management and heartfelt conversations, families can create a home filled with support and hope. Every day brings a new opportunity to move forward together toward a better tomorrow.
Dr. Korey
It’s a difficult process but you have to stay diligently focused on Gods word and live each day with a purpose and always put God and family first above all else.